Hot Best Seller

Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle

Availability: Ready to download

This groundbreaking book explains why women experience burnout differently than men—and provides a simple, science-based plan to help women minimize stress, manage emotions, and live a more joyful life. Burnout. Many women in America have experienced it. What’s expected of women and what it’s really like to be a woman in today’s world are two very different things—and women This groundbreaking book explains why women experience burnout differently than men—and provides a simple, science-based plan to help women minimize stress, manage emotions, and live a more joyful life. Burnout. Many women in America have experienced it. What’s expected of women and what it’s really like to be a woman in today’s world are two very different things—and women exhaust themselves trying to close the gap between them. How can you “love your body” when every magazine cover has ten diet tips for becoming “your best self”? How do you “lean in” at work when you’re already operating at 110 percent and aren’t recognized for it? How can you live happily and healthily in a sexist world that is constantly telling you you’re too fat, too needy, too noisy, and too selfish? Sisters Emily Nagoski, PhD, and Amelia Nagoski, DMA, are here to help end the cycle of feeling overwhelmed and exhausted. Instead of asking us to ignore the very real obstacles and societal pressures that stand between women and well-being, they explain with compassion and optimism what we’re up against—and show us how to fight back. In these pages you’ll learn • what you can do to complete the biological stress cycle—and return your body to a state of relaxation • how to manage the “monitor” in your brain that regulates the emotion of frustration • how the Bikini Industrial Complex makes it difficult for women to love their bodies—and how to defend yourself against it • why rest, human connection, and befriending your inner critic are keys to recovering and preventing burnout With the help of eye-opening science, prescriptive advice, and helpful worksheets and exercises, all women will find something transformative in these pages—and will be empowered to create positive change. Emily and Amelia aren’t here to preach the broad platitudes of expensive self-care or insist that we strive for the impossible goal of “having it all.” Instead, they tell us that we are enough, just as we are—and that wellness, true wellness, is within our reach.


Compare

This groundbreaking book explains why women experience burnout differently than men—and provides a simple, science-based plan to help women minimize stress, manage emotions, and live a more joyful life. Burnout. Many women in America have experienced it. What’s expected of women and what it’s really like to be a woman in today’s world are two very different things—and women This groundbreaking book explains why women experience burnout differently than men—and provides a simple, science-based plan to help women minimize stress, manage emotions, and live a more joyful life. Burnout. Many women in America have experienced it. What’s expected of women and what it’s really like to be a woman in today’s world are two very different things—and women exhaust themselves trying to close the gap between them. How can you “love your body” when every magazine cover has ten diet tips for becoming “your best self”? How do you “lean in” at work when you’re already operating at 110 percent and aren’t recognized for it? How can you live happily and healthily in a sexist world that is constantly telling you you’re too fat, too needy, too noisy, and too selfish? Sisters Emily Nagoski, PhD, and Amelia Nagoski, DMA, are here to help end the cycle of feeling overwhelmed and exhausted. Instead of asking us to ignore the very real obstacles and societal pressures that stand between women and well-being, they explain with compassion and optimism what we’re up against—and show us how to fight back. In these pages you’ll learn • what you can do to complete the biological stress cycle—and return your body to a state of relaxation • how to manage the “monitor” in your brain that regulates the emotion of frustration • how the Bikini Industrial Complex makes it difficult for women to love their bodies—and how to defend yourself against it • why rest, human connection, and befriending your inner critic are keys to recovering and preventing burnout With the help of eye-opening science, prescriptive advice, and helpful worksheets and exercises, all women will find something transformative in these pages—and will be empowered to create positive change. Emily and Amelia aren’t here to preach the broad platitudes of expensive self-care or insist that we strive for the impossible goal of “having it all.” Instead, they tell us that we are enough, just as we are—and that wellness, true wellness, is within our reach.

30 review for Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle

  1. 5 out of 5

    Elyse Walters

    Audiobook... read by the author. When I first saw this perky pink- book - with the title “Burnout”.... I was kidding - but not completely when I said... “Paul, I have a book for you”. Paul looked at the title and said.... “stresses me out just looking at that book”. I thought I would be nice and download it and see if I had any words of wisdom to pass on to my husband who is experiencing different degrees of burnout associated with his tired aching body, paperwork, and the state of our country. Audiobook... read by the author. When I first saw this perky pink- book - with the title “Burnout”.... I was kidding - but not completely when I said... “Paul, I have a book for you”. Paul looked at the title and said.... “stresses me out just looking at that book”. I thought I would be nice and download it and see if I had any words of wisdom to pass on to my husband who is experiencing different degrees of burnout associated with his tired aching body, paperwork, and the state of our country. Tossing out special Olympics for children- tossed my husband over the edge into depression. So - I listen to many chapters while I was relaxing in our warm pool. I repeat: I was ‘relaxed’ when listening to this Audiobook. It didn’t take long until everything about this book was stressing me out. I found it completely annoying. Much of the writing is semantics - a clever play on words and made up scenarios/ stories that we can relate to.... but do we need to have every little detail -people’s challenges- POUNDED INTO OUR HEADS? It’s exhausting. A totally ineffective self help book. There wasn’t an ounce of anything that wasn’t familiar. This book wasn’t even close to offering clear effective solutions. The big conclusion- The book isn’t about happiness… It’s about joy. The difference between the two words is that happiness are things that are happening... Joy is a state of being...( basically our inner state of well-being). Every chapter ‘stresses’ the stresses. The givers of the world: teachers - nurses - mothers - all give too much. What’s new about that? We need connection... yes I agree - So what? And your point is???? A very annoying stressful - draining experience. It’s a no-fun venting party of everything we all already know. Dull and boring!!!! I want my money back. Paul was right... this book is guaranteed to stress you out. It’s a health hazard.... ‘creating’ stress induced endorphins. No way Jose! Not a fan!!!

  2. 5 out of 5

    Trin

    This is a really well-intentioned book, and I think/hope it will be helpful to a lot of people. I think the authors' advice is generally very good. However, nothing in here was particularly new to me, nor presented in a way that especially resonated. In fact, I found the sort of Tumblr-y, fandom-lite writing style--"feels"! "tl;dr"! quoting Cassandra Clare, good god--to be a little too cutesy. Like, it was just a half-beat off rhythm from the kind of humor and #relatablecontent that does resonat This is a really well-intentioned book, and I think/hope it will be helpful to a lot of people. I think the authors' advice is generally very good. However, nothing in here was particularly new to me, nor presented in a way that especially resonated. In fact, I found the sort of Tumblr-y, fandom-lite writing style--"feels"! "tl;dr"! quoting Cassandra Clare, good god--to be a little too cutesy. Like, it was just a half-beat off rhythm from the kind of humor and #relatablecontent that does resonate with me, and that slight offness grated more than if this had been a cold and purely academic work. I can definitely see the audience though, and I hope it helps them, because in general terms, I think the authors are spot on about why modern women are stressed the fuck out. (Hint: it's the patriarchy, stupid.)

  3. 5 out of 5

    Meagan

    This book is filled with so much information, and I’ve been obsessively recommending it and quoting it to just about every woman I know. It’s got so much good and general information about the stress cycle, and how to deal with it. (And anxiety, and burnout, and loneliness, and and and.) A lot of the information applies to all humans, but this book addresses the unique stress related to being a female-type person. None of that stress will be surprising to women, but this is the first time I can This book is filled with so much information, and I’ve been obsessively recommending it and quoting it to just about every woman I know. It’s got so much good and general information about the stress cycle, and how to deal with it. (And anxiety, and burnout, and loneliness, and and and.) A lot of the information applies to all humans, but this book addresses the unique stress related to being a female-type person. None of that stress will be surprising to women, but this is the first time I can think of that I’ve gotten good advice about what to do about it. Good, science-based advice that doesn’t involve just taking a bubble bath, taking a deep breath, and plunging back into the fray. In this intensely depressing moment of history, with Trump and Kavanaugh and Weinstein (and and and) this book made me feel a little hopeful. I’ll need to revisit it regularly, because it involves a lot of elements, but it rang true. I hope the women I know and love will read it. It’s so worth the time. Thanks to the publisher for providing me with an advance copy!

  4. 5 out of 5

    lov2laf

    Emily and Amelia Nagoski are talented enough in their chosen fields but they missed their calling as professional audiobook narrators. They pack a lot of info and wisdom into their "Burnout" book but, very importantly, they are *really* fun to listen to. This book is basically for any and every woman making their way through life and shoveling the shit that comes with it. I wouldn't say I'm burnt out but stressed? Hell, yes. This, along with Emily Nagoski's "Come As You Are" should be required re Emily and Amelia Nagoski are talented enough in their chosen fields but they missed their calling as professional audiobook narrators. They pack a lot of info and wisdom into their "Burnout" book but, very importantly, they are *really* fun to listen to. This book is basically for any and every woman making their way through life and shoveling the shit that comes with it. I wouldn't say I'm burnt out but stressed? Hell, yes. This, along with Emily Nagoski's "Come As You Are" should be required reading. The world would be a happier place. For those looking for a no nonsense, shoot from the hip self-help book specifically aimed at women and the extra challenges we face you've found it. The Nagoskis tackle topics such as stress and how to process it, body awareness and acceptance, gender discrimination, racial discrimination, finding meaning in life, and overall making you a better you. It's inclusive (they acknowledge the gender spectrum and transwomen), real, empowering, and they bring the science and studies to back it up. On a side note, the other day I picked up a self-help book that happened to be written by a man. By chapter two I was like, "Nope. Done reading." The book, not meaning to, came from the viewpoint of a male privileged status and I just couldn't deal with another, "the world is so hard and here's how you win" because the guy was already 3/4 the way up the mountain. In contrast, this book was singing to me on high and was a refreshing oasis from all that blather. Do yourself a favor and listen to these ladies. Your self will thank you.

  5. 4 out of 5

    Ginger

    As the authors would say, “ugh.” No really, I counted about five “ughs” in the initial skim through of the book. This felt not only whiny and unprofessional, but also as if they were setting me up not to take it seriously. Beyond that, it was hard to. Everyone is talking about this, so while I don’t particularly relish giving something a poor review, I just don’t want you to rush out and buy it like I did without knowing what you’re getting into. Firstly, the research presented throughout was... thi As the authors would say, “ugh.” No really, I counted about five “ughs” in the initial skim through of the book. This felt not only whiny and unprofessional, but also as if they were setting me up not to take it seriously. Beyond that, it was hard to. Everyone is talking about this, so while I don’t particularly relish giving something a poor review, I just don’t want you to rush out and buy it like I did without knowing what you’re getting into. Firstly, the research presented throughout was... thin. They deliberately conflate their subjects, on the basis of making for a better story, but this highlights their faux dialogue and made me wonder, if women really are asking these questions, why they couldn’t quote the actual subjects? Why make up a make-believe narrative? Secondly, the conclusion is that the cause of women’s stress is... the patriarchy. I’m serious. That’s their conclusion. Ok, even if I can buy into that. That does not explain why men would have stress. If the cause of our stress is that women are expected to give “every drop of your humanity” (and for the record, this feels like a lazy characterization of the male-female dynamic they’re getting at. There is nuance here. I know no man who expects the women in his life to give “every drop” of her humanity in support of them, no matter the cost). It felt cheap and capitalizing on the very real #metoo/#resist/#shepersisted moment, agenda-driven as opposed to actually dealing with stress problem. If you wanted to write a book decrying the patriarchy, fine. Do that. Just don’t disguise it as a book on how to deal with stress. Finally, the tl;dr: sections. Call me old-fashioned, I just don’t really want cutesy stuff in my book when you’re touting a PhD on the cover. Not to mention I’m never here for your suggestion a reader might not read your own book. Actually, I take it back. I’m glad those were at the end of each chapter because what they did well was to actually summarize their points there. So well, in fact, you really could drive yourself to the bookstore, stand in the aisle, and read those sections and you really would get the gist of the book. I’ll save you the time for even that and tell you their best secret for dealing with stress. Get ready; it’s groundbreaking: exercise. Not that we’ve all known for years, decades, that moving your body is great for stress. That’s their big secret. A few of their other secrets: plan problem-solving measures for what you can control. I know. Really groundbreaking stuff here. Stay positive about the things you can’t control. Or, give up! (I’m really serious here... I’m not making any of this up.) Find a larger meaning in life (but don’t be a “giver”—that’s where your stress is coming from!). See yourself as hot. (Again, I feel compelled to tell you I’m literally not making any of this up for comedic effect.) Connect (but remember, don’t give to much). Create a “bubble of love.” Don’t feel guilty about sleeping (exercise and sleep... groundbreaking). Keep a calendar. Deal with the cause of stress. I am so sorry I’m seeing this book everywhere. I don’t think it will be helpful to women. It’s very discussable. It’s very enraging. It will sell well and be all over Instagram. And I just don’t think it’s going to do any good for any real women experiencing real stress. Their causes are flawed; their solutions are anything but groundbreaking. A dance party to Whitney Houston in your living room won’t change your stress. This read like the worst cliche of the genre. If The Onion had written a book about women’s stress, this would have been the result.

  6. 4 out of 5

    Lorilin

    The only reason I picked up this book is because I went to the bookstore to pick up a different book by the same author called Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life (a truly outstanding, mind-blowing exploration of female sexuality and the female orgasm. #yesplease). While I was there, though, I saw that Emily Nagoski (and her twin sister, Amelia) just released a new book called Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle. Whaaaat?! A book on how to The only reason I picked up this book is because I went to the bookstore to pick up a different book by the same author called Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life (a truly outstanding, mind-blowing exploration of female sexuality and the female orgasm. #yesplease). While I was there, though, I saw that Emily Nagoski (and her twin sister, Amelia) just released a new book called Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle. Whaaaat?! A book on how to calm the eff down? Sold! I read Burnout in two days, and holy smokes wow, what a game changer. Probably the most important thing I learned about was completing the stress cycle—how even if you eliminate your stress trigger (e.g., your kids aren’t yelling at you anymore because you are letting them watch a movie), you still have to deal with the stress that’s floating around in your body. It literally, physically needs someplace to go. You have to workout, cry, laugh, breathe deeply, or create. Whatever it is, that pent up energy has to move through and OUT of you for you to actually feel calm again. And if you don’t allow yourself to complete the stress cycle, you basically just walk around all day every day with that constant frantic hum of electricity buzzing through your body. We’ve all been there, and it’s maddening. Though the advice above is applicable to both women AND men, be warned that the Nagoski twins spend a lot of time talking about “The Patriarchy (ugh)." They argue (and use scientific studies to prove) that women have been conditioned to ignore cues from their bodies; push themselves too hard to serve everyone but themselves; hate themselves for not being docile, emotion-less helpmates; and then accept blame when the world tells them they’re crazy for not being able to meet every impossible demand made of them. This section is hard-hitting but incredibly freeing, I’ve got to say. Men might have a different take on it, though… The last and most practical section is all about how to change this stress mess we’re now in. I won’t mention all of their suggestions, but some of my favorites are: *** Sleep 8 to 9 hours at night AND make time to rest during the day. *** Connect with people who get you. (The small section here on gaslighting was so eye-opening for me.) *** Acknowledge and accept the “madwoman in the attic” who constantly tells you that you aren’t measuring up. Find a way to become her friend. *** Show yourself some compassion, even when (especially when) the healing hurts. In short, I loved Burnout. It was the perfect book to read at this particular moment in my life—a breath of fresh air that helped me, well, breathe. I’m recommending it to every woman I know (and even a couple men…).

  7. 5 out of 5

    Molly Ferguson

    This is the feminist book on stress I never knew I needed! I would never have picked up this book if I were judging its cover, first for the "breast cancer ribbon pink" of the cover and then for the title. I blame the publishers rather than the authors for this, though, because once inside the book is searingly feminist and offers excellent examples and tips for how to "complete the stress cycle" so that you live to smash the patriarchy another day. I don't think of myself as someone who is "bur This is the feminist book on stress I never knew I needed! I would never have picked up this book if I were judging its cover, first for the "breast cancer ribbon pink" of the cover and then for the title. I blame the publishers rather than the authors for this, though, because once inside the book is searingly feminist and offers excellent examples and tips for how to "complete the stress cycle" so that you live to smash the patriarchy another day. I don't think of myself as someone who is "burnt out," and yet I found myself relating to so much of the book. I loved the explanation of the stress cycle, human giver syndrome, and the science the book offers on these things, as well as the summaries and worksheets. I even made a copy of the chapter titled "The Game is Rigged" to pass out to friends! The book got a little corny sometimes though - it didn't need the gimmicky internet speak it lapsed into (TL;DR). Overall, I really appreciated it and I think it should be sold as an antidote to _Girl, Wash your Face_, in a two-pack with Rebecca Traister's _Rage_.

  8. 5 out of 5

    Leigh Kramer

    Someday I will look back on this time in my life and point to this book as when it all changed. Yes. It’s that good. I'm a huge fan of Emily Nagoski's Come As You Are. In it, she briefly explored unlocking the stress cycle and it gave me so much to think about. A whole book co-written with her sister dedicated to the topic? Music to my ears and boy, did it deliver. The introduction and first chapter blew my mind, right from the get-go and it only got better from there. There are so many takeaways Someday I will look back on this time in my life and point to this book as when it all changed. Yes. It’s that good. I'm a huge fan of Emily Nagoski's Come As You Are. In it, she briefly explored unlocking the stress cycle and it gave me so much to think about. A whole book co-written with her sister dedicated to the topic? Music to my ears and boy, did it deliver. The introduction and first chapter blew my mind, right from the get-go and it only got better from there. There are so many takeaways that I don’t even know where to start. The beauty of this book is the way the Nagoskis lay out their insights. The chapters build on each other in a way that allows you to digest the information but also figure out how to incorporate it in to your life. I wish this book had existed 15 years ago! I don’t know if I’d still be a social worker but I would have managed my career differently. This book helped me see how it didn’t matter how airtight my self-care practices were and why burnout happened anyway. It also showed me why I’ve been exhausted the last few years, even though I have more margin than ever—I did not know to label my current experience as burnout but it makes so much sense. I have not done a good job of completing the stress cycle and now I have more ideas and tools on how to do that. I also appreciate the way they name and call out the patriarchy. It’s a huge layer of what women experience and I hadn’t thought about the specific and pernicious ways it impacts burnout and my sense of well-being. Yes, I can point to the ways the patriarchy has negatively impacted my life and the complicated emotions I carry or are dragged up by the news. But since this is how it’s always been, even if the #metoo movement is starting to bring about some changes, I never thought about the year after year toll. It was so helpful and validating to read those sections and be reminded that it’s not okay. One chapter I want to mention is The Bikini Industrial Complex, which taught me that the Body Mass Index (BMI) is complete junk. It was created by a panel of nine people, seven of whom were employed by weight loss clinics. WEIGHT LOSS CLINICS. This was infuriating to read about. I haven’t stopped railing against the lobbyists who sold us out and and every doctor who took junk science at face value and used it against their patients. Screw them all. Clearly the book made me angry in places—stupid patriarchy. But it was also extremely moving and engaging. I laughed and I cried. Burnout was not just a game-changer. It was life-altering. Every person who identifies as a woman would benefit from reading it. I’m so grateful to Emily and Amelia for writing it.

  9. 4 out of 5

    Anna J. Shelby ☕

    This book is such a disappointment. Buckets of crazy feminist bs in it. This sucks as a help book. It started out pretty good but turned into an annoying tirade about patriarchy and an obesity glorifying mantra. I was stressed out just reading it. The messages are a copy&paste from girls magazines: find joy, not happinness, connection and passion are key, etc. etc. The villain is the patriarchy only, and being overweight is awesome, because we are all such special snowflakes. I hear you, dear This book is such a disappointment. Buckets of crazy feminist bs in it. This sucks as a help book. It started out pretty good but turned into an annoying tirade about patriarchy and an obesity glorifying mantra. I was stressed out just reading it. The messages are a copy&paste from girls magazines: find joy, not happinness, connection and passion are key, etc. etc. The villain is the patriarchy only, and being overweight is awesome, because we are all such special snowflakes. I hear you, dear author. None should be discriminated because of their appearance. But why, not once do you mention the medical issues overweight entails. I wonder why, dear overweight author. This particular part of the book annoyed me to no end, because Nagoski does not talk about the real issue at hand, that being the fact that most societies discriminate people because of their appearance and maybe try to see the reasons for that. The Nagoski sisters just are just stuck at the point hammering into your head that you're awesome, no matter how unhealthy your lifestyle may be to your own body. It feels like this book is their message board to all those who bullied them because of their weight. Well, that's not what I was paying for. #The world changes! The nonsense of discrimination towards women is NOT status quo anymore everywhere. I just need to ask about the gender quote in an interview for a new job, and the male interviewer starts sweating immediately. We get pampered just because of our sex. That is not equality. There's nothing eye-opening in this book. None of the promised helpful advice. Not a recommendation from me.

  10. 4 out of 5

    Taryn Pierson

    I’m skeptical when it comes to self help books, but after hearing the Nagoski sisters on Smart Podcast, Trashy Books and being totally charmed by them, I knew I wanted to hear more of their ideas. The title to me is a little limited for what the book actually is: an exploration of not just burnout but the stress that causes it, with a specific focus on how stress affects women and what we can do to release some of the pressure. Some chapters will resonate more or less with different readers, but I’m skeptical when it comes to self help books, but after hearing the Nagoski sisters on Smart Podcast, Trashy Books and being totally charmed by them, I knew I wanted to hear more of their ideas. The title to me is a little limited for what the book actually is: an exploration of not just burnout but the stress that causes it, with a specific focus on how stress affects women and what we can do to release some of the pressure. Some chapters will resonate more or less with different readers, but for me, the chapters on completing the cycle and the bikini industrial complex alone are worth the price of the book. I came away with a handful of concrete, actionable revelations, and the Nagoski sisters are cheerful and pleasant company (they take turns narrating the audio book). If you like Brené Brown, you'll probably find something useful here.

  11. 4 out of 5

    Amy-GallivantingPages

    *** 3.5 rounded up to 4 Stars *** Let me start by saying I am not a fan of self help books that feel like cheerleaders. I don't want to be cheered on in life. So then why did I request this book? I requested this because this is NOT that kind of self help book. Burnout is something we all fear and unfortunately happens to all of us. These ladies did their homework regarding the scientific evidence behind burnout and how to prevent it, which I was extremely interested in. There's some graphs and e *** 3.5 rounded up to 4 Stars *** Let me start by saying I am not a fan of self help books that feel like cheerleaders. I don't want to be cheered on in life. So then why did I request this book? I requested this because this is NOT that kind of self help book. Burnout is something we all fear and unfortunately happens to all of us. These ladies did their homework regarding the scientific evidence behind burnout and how to prevent it, which I was extremely interested in. There's some graphs and evidence based practice throughout and it was easy to understand; just straight up helpful. I related a lot more to this by having concrete facts of what I deal with and how to improve my stress rather than a " YAY- you can do it' mentality. Yeah, there were a few times I felt like they were cheerleaders but this book felt different overall. I really enjoyed at the end of every chapter they have a "TL;DR" section which stands for "Too Long, Didn't Read" and summarizes the main take away points from the chapter. Yes, I read every chapter but these really summed up and drove home the advice. Really enjoyed and recommend for females who are interested in how to adapt/deal and break the stress/burnout cycle we deal with. Special Thanks to NetGalley and Random House for allowing me an ARC in exchange for an honest review.

  12. 5 out of 5

    Megan Mills

    All women should read this book.

  13. 4 out of 5

    Katherine Pershey

    THIS BOOK IS SO GOOD. EVERYBODY SHOULD READ IT. YES I AM ALL-CAPS YELLING.

  14. 4 out of 5

    Kelly

    I'm not burned out, nor have I been at that point in any time since leaving libraries, but this is a damn good book, whether or not you experience burnout. There's no groundbreaking knowledge conveyed here -- we all know exercise is good for us and so is rest -- but the context the Nagoskis offer, as well as their research, offers up the why behind it. Exercise completes the stress cycle. Resting allows our brains to do a ton of work. I was kind of blown away by the fact we're to rest 40% of our I'm not burned out, nor have I been at that point in any time since leaving libraries, but this is a damn good book, whether or not you experience burnout. There's no groundbreaking knowledge conveyed here -- we all know exercise is good for us and so is rest -- but the context the Nagoskis offer, as well as their research, offers up the why behind it. Exercise completes the stress cycle. Resting allows our brains to do a ton of work. I was kind of blown away by the fact we're to rest 40% of our days, but when they break down what that entails, it's really not that challenging (they are good about the caveats, of course). The chapter on the "bikini industrial complex" and about how women choosing to be liberated from body hatred is so good. It's not about body love or acceptance, which is something I really dislike. You can't go from one extreme to the other without whiplash, and frankly, it's just not realistic. But they offer up ways to think about having and operating within a human body that are really worthwhile. As someone who cares deeply about body stuff, I shouldn't have been surprised to hear the history of some of the medically-ingrained biases, and yet, I still was. The audio on this one is great!

  15. 5 out of 5

    Kaytee Cobb

    I need a copy of this book. Need.

  16. 4 out of 5

    Shannon A

    Everyone is burned out these days. Most of us (especially women) are brought up believing that you must be pretty, happy, calm, and generous at all times: Failure is not an option. This book blows the doors off all that, by uncovering the true elements of and causes of burnout (with help from Star Trek!) and gives the tools and techniques needed to combat burnout. This book is the much needed and urgent answer to a desperate call from all of us. This is the book we have all been waiting for. Ama Everyone is burned out these days. Most of us (especially women) are brought up believing that you must be pretty, happy, calm, and generous at all times: Failure is not an option. This book blows the doors off all that, by uncovering the true elements of and causes of burnout (with help from Star Trek!) and gives the tools and techniques needed to combat burnout. This book is the much needed and urgent answer to a desperate call from all of us. This is the book we have all been waiting for. Amazing.

  17. 4 out of 5

    Amy

    It isn't every day that I say that a book has truly changed my life but this one did. This is a book that every woman should read. EVERY WOMAN. I found it to be revolutionary ... it explained so much to me about why I was feeling the way that I was feeling. And, even better, it gave me information about how to deal with it. I only wish I'd had this book when I was in my 20s & providing counseling to domestic violence and sexual abuse survivors every day and slowly burning out. I sometimes wo It isn't every day that I say that a book has truly changed my life but this one did. This is a book that every woman should read. EVERY WOMAN. I found it to be revolutionary ... it explained so much to me about why I was feeling the way that I was feeling. And, even better, it gave me information about how to deal with it. I only wish I'd had this book when I was in my 20s & providing counseling to domestic violence and sexual abuse survivors every day and slowly burning out. I sometimes wonder if I could have perhaps worked through it and stayed in human services if I'd known the information in this book. I suspect that I'm going to be working for a long time to work on unlocking my own stress cycle. I love that this book has actionable steps that anyone can take to transform and find true wellness. I highly recommend this book.

  18. 5 out of 5

    angelareadsbooks

    Thank you to Netgalley and the publisher for the opportunity to read and review this book. Unfortunately this was a case of reading a book at the wrong time. I’m in the midst of a season of deep burnout. I’m in the midst of being three months unemployed. In my case, reading about the patriarchy and body image issues left me well... burned out. I do think a lot of people will resonate with this book. It is perfect timing for those feeling compassion fatigue. And it has some wonderful and deep thou Thank you to Netgalley and the publisher for the opportunity to read and review this book. Unfortunately this was a case of reading a book at the wrong time. I’m in the midst of a season of deep burnout. I’m in the midst of being three months unemployed. In my case, reading about the patriarchy and body image issues left me well... burned out. I do think a lot of people will resonate with this book. It is perfect timing for those feeling compassion fatigue. And it has some wonderful and deep thoughts. However in my particular season, I need less science and less social commentary. No matter how important or true it is. I did find the first three chapters to be beneficial, regarding breaking the physical cycle of stress. So I will take that information with me and perhaps return to the rest at another time in my life. I give this book three stars. Only because it wasn’t what I was personally needing right now.

  19. 4 out of 5

    Lisa Butterworth

    Much better than the average self-help book. It has all the usual good advice bits, and a few that were even new to me, specific advice for finishing the stress cycle, getting lots of rest, what self-care really looks like. I loved the "human giving" vs. "human being" discussion. The place where this book really stood out for me though, was is the acknowledgement of systemic inequality, so many self-help books want to sell the idea that you can fix all the problems in your life, and that makes m Much better than the average self-help book. It has all the usual good advice bits, and a few that were even new to me, specific advice for finishing the stress cycle, getting lots of rest, what self-care really looks like. I loved the "human giving" vs. "human being" discussion. The place where this book really stood out for me though, was is the acknowledgement of systemic inequality, so many self-help books want to sell the idea that you can fix all the problems in your life, and that makes me freaking crazy, because so many of hte problems women face, and more specifically women of color are a result of systemic injustice, and telling people that "self-help" can solve systemic problems is just once again blaming the victim. This book does NOT fall into this trope. There are whole chapters on coping with injustice and taking care of ones self in the midst of unavoidable inequality, and that is important work for us all to do.

  20. 5 out of 5

    Emma

    I was left feeling a bit confused after finishing this book. The title implies the book is about burn-out and how to solve your stress etc, but in reality the book was only about burnout and how to actaully handle stress for 10%, while the other 90% was filled with feministic chatter about how the patriarchy has caused your burnout or stress if you are a female-identifying person. In my opinion there is absolutely nothing wrong with books about feminism, the patriarchy and how they may or may not I was left feeling a bit confused after finishing this book. The title implies the book is about burn-out and how to solve your stress etc, but in reality the book was only about burnout and how to actaully handle stress for 10%, while the other 90% was filled with feministic chatter about how the patriarchy has caused your burnout or stress if you are a female-identifying person. In my opinion there is absolutely nothing wrong with books about feminism, the patriarchy and how they may or may not affect stress and burnout in women, but if I pick up a book that’s called “Burnout: the secret to unlocking the stress cycle”, I don’t want to read about the patriarchy. I want to read about stress, and burnout, and maybe a small chapter about how the patriarchy may affect those things in women, but not 90% of the book devoted to that subject. Nevertheless, the books was relatively enjoyable and easy to read, and I enjoyed the short TLDR sections at the end of every chapter to give a quick summary of everything that was discussed in the book.

  21. 5 out of 5

    Kara

    4 stars overall/for other readers, but 3 stars for me personally. The Nagoski sisters set out to make a "feminist self-help book" and they deliver on their promise. This book is pretty evidence-based, but as someone who keeps up with psychology findings, none of their points were really news to me (though I imagine they will be to people who mostly read "traditional" self-help books). I had one "aha!" moment in the first chapter, and the rest of it was solid but not earth-shattering. The easy-to 4 stars overall/for other readers, but 3 stars for me personally. The Nagoski sisters set out to make a "feminist self-help book" and they deliver on their promise. This book is pretty evidence-based, but as someone who keeps up with psychology findings, none of their points were really news to me (though I imagine they will be to people who mostly read "traditional" self-help books). I had one "aha!" moment in the first chapter, and the rest of it was solid but not earth-shattering. The easy-to-read style and cute references will appeal to lots of readers, but weren't really for me personally. I envision this book as being a "gateway drug" that opens up readers to more research-based books than the usual self-help fare.

  22. 4 out of 5

    Mel

    Wonderful, informative and relatable, even fun despite the oft-depressing topics, like the "Bikini Industrial Complex" and the "Giver Syndrome", sisters (twins, actually) Emily and Amelia Nagoski collaborated on a book SO of the times it was almost too good, too real. Though it is really focused on issues women face and how we can cope with burnout in our professional and personal lives by doing things like not dissing other women based on appearance, it’s also embracing everyone's hotness, as i Wonderful, informative and relatable, even fun despite the oft-depressing topics, like the "Bikini Industrial Complex" and the "Giver Syndrome", sisters (twins, actually) Emily and Amelia Nagoski collaborated on a book SO of the times it was almost too good, too real. Though it is really focused on issues women face and how we can cope with burnout in our professional and personal lives by doing things like not dissing other women based on appearance, it’s also embracing everyone's hotness, as in, reveling in the fact that everyone is so different and STILL undeniably great and hot, prioritizing sleep and other relaxing activities-eating without multitasking! moving your body!- and making plans to focus on the things that produce stress rather than slapping bandaids on the stress itself with endless self-care that doesn't actually get us anywhere. Will definitely give it another listen or two in the future as I inevitably approach Burnout again.

  23. 5 out of 5

    Jules

    I eagerly bought this book the day it came out. I was surprised to find that this highly anticipated book on burn-out had turned into a hard feminist critique of society. I'm not much of a feminist scholar, but this critique made a lot of sense and will be influencing my future reading picks). The concept of Human caregiver syndrome especially is eye-opening. The problem with most burn-out books is that it's easy and insightful to diagnose this day and age's malfunctions with much flourish and vi I eagerly bought this book the day it came out. I was surprised to find that this highly anticipated book on burn-out had turned into a hard feminist critique of society. I'm not much of a feminist scholar, but this critique made a lot of sense and will be influencing my future reading picks). The concept of Human caregiver syndrome especially is eye-opening. The problem with most burn-out books is that it's easy and insightful to diagnose this day and age's malfunctions with much flourish and vitriol, but it's so much harder to offer a way out of them that's not trivial. The book gleefully mocks people's attempts to fix themselves with mindfulness and detox tea, only to later tell them to exercise daily and get enough sleep. Jogging doesn't seem the right answer for a system that is rigged. The latter part of the book addresses this and that is pretty great. But according to Emily, the system that is keeping us down is "The Patriarchy", and that's where she loses me. Women don't have a monopoly on burn-out. I would have experienced a little more exposition on (anti-)capitalism.

  24. 4 out of 5

    JoAnna

    Crucial reading for overwhelmed, under-resourced women who want to be healthy and joyful people, despite the barrage of negative voices in mainstream culture.

  25. 4 out of 5

    Meghan

    This book was received as an ARC from Random House Publishing Group - Ballantine in exchange for an honest review. Opinions and thoughts expressed in this review are completely my own. I was looking forward to reading this book due to the abundant amount of requests we get for books that help the mind and reduce stress. Dr. Emilt Nagoski constructed the book in an easy layout for the reader to follow and has shared some interesting techniques that I know will help some people. The book was very i This book was received as an ARC from Random House Publishing Group - Ballantine in exchange for an honest review. Opinions and thoughts expressed in this review are completely my own. I was looking forward to reading this book due to the abundant amount of requests we get for books that help the mind and reduce stress. Dr. Emilt Nagoski constructed the book in an easy layout for the reader to follow and has shared some interesting techniques that I know will help some people. The book was very informative and detailed but not too detailed to the point where it runs on and I know from books similar to burnout that was a huge turn off for our patrons that are interested in these books. An insightful book with interesting ideas that are sure to help reduce stress. We will consider adding this title to our stress relief display in our Non-Fiction section at our library. That is why we give this book 5 stars.

  26. 5 out of 5

    Robbin

    It's fine...I only cried five million tears reading this because it knew me so well. Full of nerd references which made these points hit home REALLY FRICKIN HARD.

  27. 4 out of 5

    Rhoda Baxter

    I first heard about this book on the Smart Bitches podcast and thought it sounded interesting, so when I saw it on Netgalley, I requested it immediately. I burned out last year and ended up leaving my job. Anything that would help with my recovery would be most welcome. This book made sense. A lot of the stuff you get told to do to protect your mental health - meditate, take 'me time', colour in etc - and that sometimes it can feel like yet another thing you have to do. The advice in this book fe I first heard about this book on the Smart Bitches podcast and thought it sounded interesting, so when I saw it on Netgalley, I requested it immediately. I burned out last year and ended up leaving my job. Anything that would help with my recovery would be most welcome. This book made sense. A lot of the stuff you get told to do to protect your mental health - meditate, take 'me time', colour in etc - and that sometimes it can feel like yet another thing you have to do. The advice in this book felt different. It helped me make sense of how I was feeling and gave practical suggestions on what to do about it. The book differentiates between the stress and the stressors. It teaches you how to handle the stress. It's not a quick fix, but the suggestions do make sense. So far, I've tried a few things they've suggested and they have helped. Most of all, it's reminded me not to judge myself too harshly. Turns out, that's something I do a lot. It also turns out, I'm not along in that! The book is aimed at women, but I'm going to buy a copy for my husband because I think it is useful for men too. There's a lot about the patriarchy, but the definition of the patriarchy is such that it's not about railing against individual men per se, but about the patriarchal society that has pushed us all into unrealistic roles. I think this is one of the most important books I've read in years. Thank you Netgalley for the review copy. As I say, I will be buying a print copy of it anyway.

  28. 5 out of 5

    Kayla

    I have always struggled with pretty much everything the authors describe: toxic perfectionism, a lack of self-compassion, body image issues, all that mess. While many concepts in this book weren’t new, there were a few ideas that lit a fire under me and made me see things in a different way, particularly their concept of Human Giver Syndrome. A lot of self help books for women are either still steeped in patriarchal concepts (or don’t acknowledge more global issues) or basically tell you to medi I have always struggled with pretty much everything the authors describe: toxic perfectionism, a lack of self-compassion, body image issues, all that mess. While many concepts in this book weren’t new, there were a few ideas that lit a fire under me and made me see things in a different way, particularly their concept of Human Giver Syndrome. A lot of self help books for women are either still steeped in patriarchal concepts (or don’t acknowledge more global issues) or basically tell you to meditate and get over it. Those never worked for me. This book feels more realistic (if slightly more depressing about society) and gives much more realistic ideas about how to reframe your perspective and change your thought processes. I think this is a great, engaging book for women who need another look at why our lives feel so exhausting.

  29. 4 out of 5

    Brandon Cole

    Absolutely essential reading. This is a beautiful book about the unique stress people (especially women) experience after centuries of patriarchy and capitalism and also about how to not let it ruin you. The stressors examined and the science behind their effects are real and the remedies are compassionately appropriate. Some ideas may feel intuitive or all too familiar to women; I found it extremely informative and healing. I was also pleasantly surprised to learn a pretty solid blueprint for a Absolutely essential reading. This is a beautiful book about the unique stress people (especially women) experience after centuries of patriarchy and capitalism and also about how to not let it ruin you. The stressors examined and the science behind their effects are real and the remedies are compassionately appropriate. Some ideas may feel intuitive or all too familiar to women; I found it extremely informative and healing. I was also pleasantly surprised to learn a pretty solid blueprint for a secular worldview based in lovingkindness.

  30. 4 out of 5

    Cass

    Described as a feminist guide to women's survival, Burnout breaks down how to deal with stress, smash the patriarchy and be compassionate to yourself. I want to recommend this to several people in my life - but most of all, I want to do the work this book outlines. To help make the world kinder, by being kinder to myself and others, as Emily and Amelia Nagoski write.

Add a review

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

Loading...
We use cookies to give you the best online experience. By using our website you agree to our use of cookies in accordance with our cookie policy.